Thankyou! A timely reminder to practise regular moments of self-care as we navigate the tidal swells. Also, remember that big surges of sadness, fear and rage only last ninety seconds. Unless we feed them with ‘then what?’ or ‘if that happens, then…’ or ‘what if?’. In short, observe the surge of emotion but don’t attach a story to it.
Easier said than done especially for those who make a living out of attaching stories to every passing thought. But ninety seconds? We can do that.
Thanks (and hi!), Debi. That's such a great point that those emotional surges only last less than two minutes, after which we can make the decision not to fuel them. I think that also fits with a "first aid" model I use for dealing with a negative event, using the analogy of dealing with a physical injury: 1. Stem the bleeding/soothe the pain 2. Once the emergency is over, see what can be done as next steps - eg actions to move forward and heal and 3. General strength-building, like physio after an injury.
Thankyou! A timely reminder to practise regular moments of self-care as we navigate the tidal swells. Also, remember that big surges of sadness, fear and rage only last ninety seconds. Unless we feed them with ‘then what?’ or ‘if that happens, then…’ or ‘what if?’. In short, observe the surge of emotion but don’t attach a story to it.
Easier said than done especially for those who make a living out of attaching stories to every passing thought. But ninety seconds? We can do that.
Thanks (and hi!), Debi. That's such a great point that those emotional surges only last less than two minutes, after which we can make the decision not to fuel them. I think that also fits with a "first aid" model I use for dealing with a negative event, using the analogy of dealing with a physical injury: 1. Stem the bleeding/soothe the pain 2. Once the emergency is over, see what can be done as next steps - eg actions to move forward and heal and 3. General strength-building, like physio after an injury.